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Its too Cold for Dresses?

(Its still cold here)

Dresses and skirts can be very practical in all weather. Women have worn them for centuries after all.  Wearing a long wool dress or skirt and top, paired with  warm leggings or stockings and practical shoes, easily solves the problem of cold weather. Arguably, this ensemble is warmer than most women’s preferred outfit: jeans and a sweater or the ever popular leggings and a sweater dress.

Fashion, Taking My Husband’s Opinions into Account, What I Learned

Taken from my personal experience: 

  1. Men like cute, its not a bad thing. Cute is a term of endearment and it doesn’t mean you can’t be beautiful or sexy it just means that the outfit brings out the tender, feminine side – its a good thing.
  2. Men know what looks good on you. They may not notice or care about the little details, but they know what looks good on you. I avoided oranges and browns, but my husband told me I look good in them. He was right. The first gift he gave me was a glove and scarf set. The scarf was wool with brown and orange tones, the gloves were orange leather with cashmere lining. I never, never, never, would have picked these out. But I loved them and got a tremendous amount of compliments on them.
  3. Men like the practical.  The key is to be attractive and practical. Wear attractive shoes but realize there is no need for a stilettos, especially if you can’t walk in them. Make sure your outfit fulfills your needs. Sometimes a stark contrast between the sweetly feminine and the ruggedly practical is appealing. i.e. gardening in a cute sundress with extremely sensible paddock boots.
  4. Men like Undergarments.Undergarments matter. Men like slips, a touch of lace . . .   put thought into your undergarments. Even if no one is going to see them, you want a good foundation.
  5. Men don’t necessarily like tight or short: Men like to see a feminine figure, but it need not be tight or short. Err on the conservative side.
  6. Men don’t seem to care about Jewelry too much: Men seem to view outfits as a whole whereas women get caught up in accessorizing. If your hair is up in a nice bun, delicate earrings are a nice touch, they frame the face and draw the eyes to the neck, but no need to be preoccupied with jewelry. My husband likes my wedding ring and a few special pieces he gave me, it seems to be more of a sentimental touch than anything else.
  7. Men prefer skirts and dresses: A women’s figure is flattered by skirts and dresses, men know this, they like it. Pants rarely do anything for a women’s figure and I’ve  given them up. (except for riding. I love riding and sidesaddle is not my expertise the very masculine art of dressage is, ironically enough.)

Also on topic: How Girls Should Dress to Attract the Right Kind of Man 

Upon Wearing Skirts & Dresses For 2 yrs

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When I made the decision to wear only skirts and dresses, something happened that I really didn’t expect, I matured. I became more aware of the way I carried myself, of the way I sat, and even spoke. I became more restrained, intentional. I became more comfortable in my femininity and in turn less childish.

I have been wearing only skirts and dresses for two years now and I have just begun realizing its impact. A skirt reminds me that I am not here to compete with men – that I don’t need to compete with men to prove my worth. It is a gentle reminder of who I am- a wife, a mother, a woman.

At first it was difficult. Skirts and dresses had always been the exception for me. I grew up in the country spending my days riding horses (astride *gasp*) and building forts in the woods with my brothers. But I began to take more thought into what I wore when my second daughter was born.

At first, I was afraid people would ask me why I didn’t wear pants. But that hasn’t happened yet. I have only received compliments on my outfits. The only question I have ever received in two years concerning my dress is, “where did you find such a beautiful skirt?”

Do I miss pants? Surprisingly, no, not really. In fact, I recently tried on a pair of jeans and was shocked to find them intolerably uncomfortable. We lost something when women gave up their long flowing dresses for jeans. We lost a certain elegance, modesty and femininity; I wanted to regain it, if only for myself.