Roman Catholic

Spiritual Headship



I’ve written about spiritual headship before.

To disregard my husband’s decision would be breaking from his authority and in breaking from his authority I lose a certain peace and even spiritual protection:

If a wife refuses to submit to the authority of her husband, she loses the spiritual protection and providence of her husband. Whatever rises against an order or authority is deprived of that order and the principle of order. This means that when a wife volitinally rejects the authority of her husband as her spiritual head and head of the family, she takes herself out from underneath his spiritual protection and becomes vulnerable to the demonic since she has taken herself out from under the hierarchy of authority as established by God ( Fr Ripperger).

Either a wife is going to be under her husband’s domain or vulnerable to the demonic. When I view my husband’s decision in this way, as a protection,  I dare not walk out from under it. I know he takes my opinions into account, regards them, so why fight against him? Ultimately to fight against  his authority is to lose a spiritual grace. It is far better to  defer to his decision.

I think of how many times I have been given grace through my husband! He has held me accountable for so many of my vices and guided me towards virtue.Not just once, but again and again. He is the first person I go to for spiritual guidance and I have never been led astray by it. Certainly God has granted him the grace to lead this family and in submitting to his authority I am also granted graces.

Marriage is hierarchical, that’s part of it’s appeal and the only way to achieve harmony within these vows is to live within it’s structure; under his God given authority. This is part of our Faith and our Faith is for all time- for our time.



Abortion & Aleksander Solzhenitsyn

Aleksander Solzhenitsyn upon the Soviet Union:

“Thus many were shot- thousands at first, then hundreds of thousands. We divide and multiply, we sigh, we curse. But still and all, these are just numbers. They overwhelm the mind and then are easily forgotten. And if someday the relatives of those who had been shot were to send one publishers photographs of their executed kin, an and album of those photographs were to be published in several volumes, then just by leafing through them and looking into the extinguished eyes we would learn much that would be valuable for the rest of our lives. Such reading, almost without words, would leave a deep mark on our hearts for all eternity. . . at least these deaths would have left a small scar on our hearts. So that they should not have died in vain!”

And what of those millions of babies killed today in a our free land? What of their eyes? Their heartbeats, hands, thumbs and limbs? Have they died in vain too! And what if we lined up their silent screams? Their pictures? These were ultrasound guided murders after all.  Shouldn’t those who murder be held accountable or are our hardened hearts too overwhelmed by numbers?


Proverbs 31

From Proverbs 31 woman ebook I’ve been reading as a Lenten reflection:

So let me tell you what a wife of noble character does not look like:

1. She does not rival her husband.

2. She does not mope around and complain about her housework.

3. She does not overspend and put her family into debt.

4. She is not bored, discontent, greedy or selfish.

5. She does not gossip and slander others.

6. She does not spend her days doing leisurely shopping, texting, emailing, web browsing, watching late night movies, and sleeping in.

7. She does not criticize, mock, or disrespect her husband.

8. She does not have children and a husband who embarrass her.

9. She does not let her outer beauty take precedence over her inner beauty.

10. She does not take God’s word lightly.

A wife of noble character, who can find? She is rare! And when she is found – her value is priceless! She is a treasure to her husband. I want to be that ruby! In order to become like the Proverbs 31 woman, we must humble ourselves and see our flaws. We must be willing to change some things – our attitudes, our thought patterns, our work ethic, our words, and what we spend our time on. But by God’s grace, you can become a woman of noble character! So for today, begin by evaluating yourself against the list above. Which character quality are you weak in? Pray and ask God for the strength to change!