We have been so busy lately with home projects and the daily work involved in running a home. It seems that once your family size hits 7 the workload somehow increases twofold overnight. Has anyone else felt this? It didn’t feel like the workload was much different from 1 to 2 children, 2 to 3 or even 3 to 4 but somehow 4 to 5 has been an adjustment.
Today as I was trying to keep up with the dishes, the laundry and the meals this quote came to mind, and so I dug it up and share it here in case you too are feeling like Sisyphus take heart!
“I think I can understand that feeling about a housewife’s work being like that of Sisyphus (who was the stone rolling gentleman). But it is surely in reality the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, miners, cars, government etc exist for except that people may be fed, warmed, and safe in their own homes? As Dr. Johnson said, “To be happy at home is the end of all human endeavour”. (1st to be happy to prepare for being happy in our own real home hereafter: 2nd in the meantime to be happy in our houses.) We wage war in order to have peace, we work in order to have leisure, we produce food in order to eat it. So your job is the one for which all others exist…”
― C.S. Lewis, Letters of C. S. Lewis
An acquaintance of mine recently told me that staying at home with her children wasn’t for her anymore and she was looking for work. I replied with an, “oh, really” and wasn’t sure what else to say. I didn’t know if she wanted encouragement to keep up the good fight, to defend my own decisions or simply soothe her conscience, “yes, motherhood is hard, it’s not for everyone.” After this conversation, I fortuitously stumbled across this thoughtful article, A Fallacy of Motherhood by Laura Wood, which is worth a read. Here’s an excerpt:
” No other form of daily work is burdened with such unrealistic expectations and exalted assumptions as the work of motherhood, which is so sentimentalized in our feminist culture. The woman who does not enjoy the company of young children or finds the home lonely and unstructured compared to the workplace may be left thinking she is not meant to be a mother.”
Every week at least one of my girls is asking me to fix their rosary. I’m beginning to think that Our Lady is allowing these rosaries to come undone so often so that I can gain more patience by fixing them or maybe I’m just terrible at linking them back together.