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Traits Men and Women Want in a Spouse

Apparently  Mutual attraction wins and chastity loses, good health also takes a hit.

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A Woman and a Little Girl

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I found this on pinterest. Many women found it disturbing and were indignant towards the very idea of feeling like a little girl. The comment “eww”  was declared more than once. But I think the quote expresses the feeling a woman gets when a man teases her; she feels like a woman because she is receiving male attention and like a little girl because she is not being taken too seriously. It seems modern women want to be taken all too seriously and are afraid of showing any vulnerability for this sentiment to upset them so much.

Men and Women

To an extent men like to see women struggle physically. They just don’t struggle in the same way and somehow find our efforts endearing.  This is not to say that men don’t help women in their struggles, but I do think they like to sit back and watch a bit before lending a helping hand.

A while back, I went to the feed store to pick up some feed.  As I began to lift the heavy bags into the truck, (which I can do with effort) a man nearby saw my exertion and came to help, but not without a slight hesitation and big smile. I accepted and watched how easily he threw the bags in the back. ah, men.

Women in Combat

Taken from Jessie Jane Duff’s FB post:

On April 1st, combat exemption for women in the U.S. military was lifted. This means women can and will be involuntarily assigned to infantry and ground units. This also means that brutal and horrific violence against women is now legal as long as it comes from the hands of the enemy.

The American public is largely removed from the military and we didn’t even hear a whimper from fathers and mothers of America that their daughter on active duty now can potentially be assigned to a combat unit. It’s called orders. Choice is gone. This isn’t about women who want to anymore. As General Dempsey said upon his retirement from being Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, there will be representation of women in all ground combat units.

There is zero evidence women can just maintain combat readiness. Even the top women still perform at the bottom percentage of men. The data is OVERWHELMING. But people have to go look for it and do their homework. No one is going to hand them a cheat sheet. I had to dig and ask around. I went to the Center for Military readiness, www.cmrlink.org/ and asked Elaine Donnelly for her Freedom of Information Act requests. Because, you see, the Pentagon is not releasing the hard facts.

The entire pro-women in the infantry movement is thriving on a false argument. It’s an argument that has no analysis or reason, let alone any evidence women in infantry units can even maintain combat readiness. Their biggest claim is “if a woman wants to and can, she should be able to”. Yet what they fail to realize, it isn’t a choice. Women either have combat exemption or they don’t. So congratulations feminists and progressive men who thought they were making a stand on equal rights. Equally, men and women now will go to combat. And all facts, data, and years of military and sports research clearly demonstrate: women are not built equally to men, regardless of how much training and fitness they do. They break faster and have critical injuries that make them more expensive to recruit and replace overall.

With Elaine’s research, I found that of the over 400 women who “wanted to” go to Infantry Training Battalion, 65% of the women FAILED the school, while 98% of the men graduated. Ninety eight percent! So, we have yet to find out of the 65% of the women who failed, how many lost their career from injury/disability. Oh, and it costs $30,000 to recycle just one person into a new job if they fail a school. If 65% fail on average, it will become quite costly and highly impractical to waste limited resources. That’s assuming the school didn’t cause them to be injured or disabled beyond being able to finish an enlistment.

I read the Marine Corps 9 month integration study and found out that of the 35% of women who passed infantry training, the top 25% of the women were still performing at the bottom 25% of the men during their combat operations study. These women are the BEST of the BEST. This means the Corps is now going to have to rank these women always in the bottom percentage of men.

Now, we’re not even done. Training is one thing – long term combat operations starts picking off even more women. This is like going through Rangers School over and over again. That bottom 25% of women (who were the top 25% of women in the Corps) still had 6X the injury rate as men. SIX times.

So progressives who peddle the “if women want to” argument, how many of those women who “wanted to do this”, in reality can’t even finish a career because they are broken by the massive training.

So, women cost 5 times a man to recruit (due to the high attrition rates from basic training, failure to ship, or simply to find a woman who wants to enter the military), they perform at the bottom 25% of men, and they are injured at 6X the rate of men in infantry units. How in the hell does this help maintain combat readiness? THAT’S the argument.

Unfortunately, so many men aren’t arguing with facts. They are arguing with emotion – many saying it will mess up their moral, cohesion, and Espirit de Corps. Well geeze guys, that is a good argument, but you can’t win on emotion. Get out there and start doing your research. Start fighting with facts. But the “you’re hurting my bonding time” is how most of them are coming off. I get what they mean because I am a Marine. What they’re saying is very true – the Corps isn’t about co-ed P.E. It’s about killing the enemy the quickest means possible, and sometimes that requires hand-to-hand combat and brute strength. But the men in Congress failed to argue the Pentagon’s decision to lift combat exemption with facts. There is zero evidence after all of the research is gathered that women can even maintain combat readiness. Women are the ones who will pay the price – with shorter careers and injury, to say the least of our worries. Attrition rates for women are already higher than men – now they will skyrocket.

If the Army and the Marine Corps can’t maintain combat readiness, women in combat units fighting ISIS on the front lines should never happen. The one woman out of 100 who may get through the training and the extensive field operations comes at an incredible cost. The taxpayers should be appalled at the money being spent to recruit, train, and replace hundreds of women who are injured and disabled, often making them unable to do more than a single enlistment.

If this were happening to any other minority group, there would be massive public outrage. But instead, combat exemption for women was lifted on April 1st and there was no media reaction. So when your daughter or sister goes into the Army or the Marines, just know, she can potentially serve in front of the wire in ground combat units. And ISIS is applauding our initiative for equality.

Age Gap

My husband’s grandfather advised him to, “Marry a women at least seven years your junior; it’s easier to establish yourself as head.” Well, my husband didn’t follow through on that advice, he is only about four years my senior. But my husband said it was a good piece of advise, a vivid memory.

I can attest the age gap is a comfort to me. It is comforting to know he is older, more experienced, mature. And although the gap seems smaller as we age, it was significant during our first few years together. I married three weeks after my college graduation, he had been a college grad for several years by then. Just that difference gave me sense of security and it gave him a sense of confidence in his role.

Today, my vanity finds comfort in the fact that he is in his thirties and I have not reached that landmark – yet. And if he were seven years my senior, I would probably be just that much more  vain.

Fashion, Taking My Husband’s Opinions into Account, What I Learned

Taken from my personal experience: 

  1. Men like cute, its not a bad thing. Cute is a term of endearment and it doesn’t mean you can’t be beautiful or sexy it just means that the outfit brings out the tender, feminine side – its a good thing.
  2. Men know what looks good on you. They may not notice or care about the little details, but they know what looks good on you. I avoided oranges and browns, but my husband told me I look good in them. He was right. The first gift he gave me was a glove and scarf set. The scarf was wool with brown and orange tones, the gloves were orange leather with cashmere lining. I never, never, never, would have picked these out. But I loved them and got a tremendous amount of compliments on them.
  3. Men like the practical.  The key is to be attractive and practical. Wear attractive shoes but realize there is no need for a stilettos, especially if you can’t walk in them. Make sure your outfit fulfills your needs. Sometimes a stark contrast between the sweetly feminine and the ruggedly practical is appealing. i.e. gardening in a cute sundress with extremely sensible paddock boots.
  4. Men like Undergarments.Undergarments matter. Men like slips, a touch of lace . . .   put thought into your undergarments. Even if no one is going to see them, you want a good foundation.
  5. Men don’t necessarily like tight or short: Men like to see a feminine figure, but it need not be tight or short. Err on the conservative side.
  6. Men don’t seem to care about Jewelry too much: Men seem to view outfits as a whole whereas women get caught up in accessorizing. If your hair is up in a nice bun, delicate earrings are a nice touch, they frame the face and draw the eyes to the neck, but no need to be preoccupied with jewelry. My husband likes my wedding ring and a few special pieces he gave me, it seems to be more of a sentimental touch than anything else.
  7. Men prefer skirts and dresses: A women’s figure is flattered by skirts and dresses, men know this, they like it. Pants rarely do anything for a women’s figure and I’ve  given them up. (except for riding. I love riding and sidesaddle is not my expertise the very masculine art of dressage is, ironically enough.)

Also on topic: How Girls Should Dress to Attract the Right Kind of Man