I wish I took the vow of obedience more seriously in the first year of marriage. If I had seen obedience as an opportunity to deny myself and to express my love and devotion to my husband, our marriage would have become stronger and happier faster.
I didn’t think that being obedient was outdated exactly, I just thought it only applied to situations where he finally, “put his foot down.” Otherwise it was alright to ignore his opinions, fight or manipulate to get my way.
I view obedience very differently now. When I am undecided about things or troubled, I go to my husband and take great comfort and joy in his console and headship. When we disagree, I remember that wives are not the only one’s living under obedience, that priests and nuns must also obey their superiors, that the Church must obey Christ’s teachings, that my husband is my superior (He may not be intrinsically better than me but he is the head of the house.) I remind myself that obedience can actually strengthen my love for my husband and keeps me under his spiritual protection. When I remember these truths obedience is easier sometimes even a joy.
If you want to grow in virtue, let obedience be your foundation. You will not get far without it and with it you will excel.
Obedience is a short cut to perfection. They who are living under obedience, if they really wish to advance in the ways of God, must give themselves up always and in all things into the hands of their superiors. . . Nothing gives greater security to our actions, or more effectually cuts the snares the devil lays for us, than to follow another person’s will, rather than our own, in doing good.——– St. Philip
A single instant passed under simple obedience is immeasurably more valuable in the sight of God than an entire day spent in the most sublime contemplation.——– St. Mary Magdalene de Pazzi
He who follows his own ideas in opposition to the direction of his superiors needs no devil to tempt him, for he is a devil to himself. ——– St. John Climacus
There are three sorts of obedience; the first, obedience when a strict obligation is imposed upon us, and this is good; the second when the simple word of the superior, without any strict command, suffices for us, and this is better; the third, when a thing is done without waiting for an express command, from a knowledge that it will be pleasing to the superior, and this is the best of all. ——– St. Ignatius