This book has been on my reading list for several years. I keep hoping I’ll find it at a thrift store but haven’t had much luck, it’s also not available at our local library so I decided to just order it this year.
An acquaintance of mine recently told me that staying at home with her children wasn’t for her anymore and she was looking for work. I replied with an, “oh, really” and wasn’t sure what else to say. I didn’t know if she wanted encouragement to keep up the good fight, to defend my own decisions or simply soothe her conscience, “yes, motherhood is hard, it’s not for everyone.” After this conversation, I fortuitously stumbled across this thoughtful article, A Fallacy of Motherhood by Laura Wood, which is worth a read. Here’s an excerpt:
” No other form of daily work is burdened with such unrealistic expectations and exalted assumptions as the work of motherhood, which is so sentimentalized in our feminist culture. The woman who does not enjoy the company of young children or finds the home lonely and unstructured compared to the workplace may be left thinking she is not meant to be a mother.”
A recent survey confirms what I already knew to be true, “stay at home moms” with four or more children are the happiest. It isn’t surprising that children bring more happiness, but the world just can’t accept this simple truth, children are a blessing.
Every week at least one of my girls is asking me to fix their rosary. I’m beginning to think that Our Lady is allowing these rosaries to come undone so often so that I can gain more patience by fixing them or maybe I’m just terrible at linking them back together.
When a woman stays at home and cooks with good judgement and understanding she watches with satisfaction as her children grow up capable and strong and her husband maintains the good health and disposition that allow him to succeed in his work. She also maintains her own good health. . .
Sally Fallon. Nourishing Traditions
I’ve followed The Nourishing Traditions blog for awhile but finally have my own copy! It is an incredibly informative cookbook (I am actually reading it cover to cover) and I’ve tried a few recipes. Her sourdough pancakes, basic muffins, salad dressings have all been a big hit with the family.
TheIvy Lee Method for managing one’s time works. It has been more effective than waking up earlier in an effort to make more time (which left me burnt out by 9am). It works so well because it forces you to make difficult decisions before facing them, it gives you a vision, it makes you focus on a single task and it’s ridiculously simple:
THE IVY LEE METHOD
At the end of each workday, write down the six most important things you need to accomplish tomorrow. Do not write down more than six tasks.
Prioritize those six items in order of their true importance.
When you arrive tomorrow, concentrate only on the first task. Work until the first task is finished before moving on to the second task.
Approach the rest of your list in the same fashion. At the end of the day, move any unfinished items to a new list of six tasks for the following day.
An excerpt from A. Frances Coomes’ Mother’s Manual. It is written as a reflection, almost an examination of conscience. I found it a helpful to meditate upon:
My home it is highly important that I endeavor to make it an attractive, cheerful place for my husband and my children.
It should not be forgotten that the attitude I manifest towards my husband may greatly influence authority in the home. The children may learn much from my manifest attitude
Children should not be witness to angry words between parents. Sometimes the great virtue asked of me may be silence- a patient and cheerful (not angry) silence.
My husband’s job of providing and managing family affairs may be vexing and worrisome. The home as an attractive place when he returns from work, my readiness to share his concerns, words of encouragement – and of praise at times the tenderness of understanding and wifely affection when he is worried or discourages.
Nagging can never do anything but effect destruction and promote discord. The need of cheerful silence, at times – and of patience. . .
“Two in one flesh” is God’s plan for man and wife. When my husband looks to me for affection – even though I may be tired or distressed – I must know that in a true sense I am part of him, as he of me. Real selflessness and generosity at times is called for. How do I respond? With gentleness? tenderness?
The attractiveness of my person- even inside the home . . . In the morning – before my husband leaves for work . . . an nourishing breakfast according to his preferences? My apperance in serving it