Look, I made a meme!
Look, I made a meme!
I find the whole home-made, anti-patriarchy home decor rather ironic. I mean how do they think the skill of embroidery was able to be preserved and passed down from generation to generation, mother to daughter? um, the Patriarchy.
for centuries men have worked and protected women died for them, so the women could live, care for children, build up the home and culture. Their protection enabled women to cultivate useful skills like weaving, sewing, stitching. And having time to make something decorative for the home was really quite the privilege- one paid for by a man’s protection and his sacrifices. And do these men get a thank you for creating a higher standard of living, for sacrificing their lives for women and children, for building Western civilization? No. they get this:
It’s not even that impressive as far as embroidery skills go.
From Proverbs 31 woman ebook I’ve been reading as a Lenten reflection:
So let me tell you what a wife of noble character does not look like:
1. She does not rival her husband.
2. She does not mope around and complain about her housework.
3. She does not overspend and put her family into debt.
4. She is not bored, discontent, greedy or selfish.
5. She does not gossip and slander others.
6. She does not spend her days doing leisurely shopping, texting, emailing, web browsing, watching late night movies, and sleeping in.
7. She does not criticize, mock, or disrespect her husband.
8. She does not have children and a husband who embarrass her.
9. She does not let her outer beauty take precedence over her inner beauty.
10. She does not take God’s word lightly.
A wife of noble character, who can find? She is rare! And when she is found – her value is priceless! She is a treasure to her husband. I want to be that ruby! In order to become like the Proverbs 31 woman, we must humble ourselves and see our flaws. We must be willing to change some things – our attitudes, our thought patterns, our work ethic, our words, and what we spend our time on. But by God’s grace, you can become a woman of noble character! So for today, begin by evaluating yourself against the list above. Which character quality are you weak in? Pray and ask God for the strength to change!
“But the reality is that women today do not think of themselves in the context of helping “their man.” Women today have been brainwashed into thinking that efforts in that direction are in the category of oppression, subservience, and catering to frail male egos. It is sad that this is the prevalent point of view, because interdependence is what ultimately feeds both the man and the woman what they truly need to be happy.”
― Dr. Laura Schlessinger
When I made the decision to wear only skirts and dresses, something happened that I really didn’t expect, I matured. I became more aware of the way I carried myself, of the way I sat, and even spoke. I became more restrained, intentional. I became more comfortable in my femininity and in turn less childish.
I have been wearing only skirts and dresses for two years now and I have just begun realizing its impact. A skirt reminds me that I am not here to compete with men – that I don’t need to compete with men to prove my worth. It is a gentle reminder of who I am- a wife, a mother, a woman.
At first it was difficult. Skirts and dresses had always been the exception for me. I grew up in the country spending my days riding horses (astride *gasp*) and building forts in the woods with my brothers. But I began to take more thought into what I wore when my second daughter was born.
At first, I was afraid people would ask me why I didn’t wear pants. But that hasn’t happened yet. I have only received compliments on my outfits. The only question I have ever received in two years concerning my dress is, “where did you find such a beautiful skirt?”
Do I miss pants? Surprisingly, no, not really. In fact, I recently tried on a pair of jeans and was shocked to find them intolerably uncomfortable. We lost something when women gave up their long flowing dresses for jeans. We lost a certain elegance, modesty and femininity; I wanted to regain it, if only for myself.
Alice Thomas Ellis a very talented writer, a Catholic and an anti-feminist once said,
There is no reciprocity. Men love women. Women love children. Children love hamster. Hamsters don’t love anyone; it is quite hopeless.
The quote annoys me because I like to think that women love men. That I love men. That I love my man. It annoys me because I know she is getting at something, there is a strong urge for men to protect women. There is a strong urge for women to protect children and, yes, children find hamsters irresistible. The urge to protect my children is much stronger than any urge to protect my husband. Despite these natural urges – Love, I pray, is reciprocal.
I have also heard people say, “men marry for wives. women marry for children.” Which also annoys me because I like to think that I married my husband because I loved him. Because I loved him enough to surrender completely to him as my authority. I ask myself would I have married him if I knew we would be childless? Yes. What else was there for me but him? I was hopelessly in love. I knew marriage was my calling. I knew he was my calling. Did I hope children were also my calling? – of course! But I only wanted his.
I was reading CH he wrote:
A good, if abstractedly imperfect, test of a woman’s love for you is to ask if she would she die for you. You can ask yourself this question, and if you’re honest you’ll know the answer.
Would she die for you?
Because most women wouldn’t.
I ask myself would my husband die for my children? Yes. Would my husband die for me? Yes. Would I die for my children? Yes. Would I die for my husband? Yes. Because, I like to think that I love my husband. I like to think that I love him enough to die for him. I like to think that I am virtuous.
Dear God, make me good!
find out what it means to me. Having a listening, trusting and respectful heart, is worth more than a brilliant mind, more than any beauty and more than any amount of gold to a man.
I enjoyed this article “Seven Times I Relented to My Husband As A Proud Submissive Wife” and could relate to a lot of the situations she mentioned. Thanks to my husband, I don’t have an ugly Tattoo, I am organized, I am better with money and am homeschooling my eldest with an incredible curriculum- when I was leaning towards unschooling. Here’s an excerpt that hit home:
in all these examples I mention trusting the right intentions of my husband. Because immediately after that submission verse, the Bible gives the husband a directive too: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)
If you trust the Bible, you have to believe that marital love isn’t like the love we see in the movies, the kind that is only good while you’re happy. You have to believe that marital love is sacrificial love to the extreme. Selflessness is at the heart of this kind of love. It’s been called the greatest human virtue and marriage is the greatest opportunity to learn it.
Submission is the unique method the Bible gives for women to learn it, respecting their men without trying to control them, just as sacrificial love is the unique method the Bible gives for men, putting their women’s needs above their own.
in retrospect trusting my husband’s decisions seems easy, I mean I knew he wanted the best for me so why worry?But it was hard to trust! It was hard to set aside my emotions and opinions to hear his, and respect his authority. I am ever so thankful that I did though!