Marriage

To Obey

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I wish I took the vow of obedience more seriously in the first year of marriage. If I had seen obedience as an opportunity to deny myself and to express my love and devotion to my husband, our marriage would have become stronger and happier faster.

I didn’t think that being obedient was outdated exactly, I just thought it only applied to situations where he finally, “put his foot down.” Otherwise it was alright to ignore his opinions, fight or manipulate to get my way.

I view obedience very differently now. When I am undecided about things or troubled, I go to my husband and take great comfort and joy in his console and headship. When  we disagree, I remember that wives are not the only one’s living under obedience,  that priests and nuns must also obey their superiors,  that the Church must obey Christ’s teachings, that my husband is my superior (He may not be intrinsically better than me but he is the head of the house.) I remind myself that obedience can actually strengthen my love for my husband and  keeps me under his spiritual protection. When I remember  these truths obedience is easier sometimes even a joy.

If you want to grow in virtue, let obedience be your foundation. You will not get far without it and with it you will excel.

Obedience is a short cut to perfection. They who are living under obedience, if they really wish to advance in the ways of God, must give themselves up always and in all things into the hands of their superiors. . . Nothing gives greater security to our actions, or more effectually cuts the snares the devil lays for us, than to follow another person’s will, rather than our own, in doing good.——– St. Philip

A single instant passed under simple obedience is immeasurably more valuable in the sight of God than an entire day spent in the most sublime contemplation.——– St. Mary Magdalene de Pazzi

He who follows his own ideas in opposition to the direction of his superiors needs no devil to tempt him, for he is a devil to himself. ——– St. John Climacus

There are three sorts of obedience; the first, obedience when a strict obligation is imposed upon us, and this is good; the second when the simple word of the superior, without any strict command, suffices for us, and this is better; the third, when a thing is done without waiting for an express command, from a knowledge that it will be pleasing to the superior, and this is the best of all. ——– St. Ignatius

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Laundry

My husband was stressed out from work, from traveling so much. So I asked him, “What can I do?” and he said, “laundry.”

windy on laundry day….

Richard Wilbur
Love Calls Us To The Things of This World
The eyes open to a cry of pulleys,
And spirited from sleep, the astounded soul
Hangs for a moment bodiless and simple
As false dawn.
                     Outside the open window
The morning air is all awash with angels.
    Some are in bed-sheets, some are in blouses,
Some are in smocks: but truly there they are.
Now they are rising together in calm swells
Of halcyon feeling, filling whatever they wear
With the deep joy of their impersonal breathing;
    Now they are flying in place, conveying
The terrible speed of their omnipresence, moving
And staying like white water; and now of a sudden
They swoon down into so rapt a quiet
That nobody seems to be there.
                                             The soul shrinks
    From all that it is about to remember,
From the punctual rape of every blessèd day,
And cries,
               “Oh, let there be nothing on earth but laundry,
Nothing but rosy hands in the rising steam
And clear dances done in the sight of heaven.”
    Yet, as the sun acknowledges
With a warm look the world’s hunks and colors,
The soul descends once more in bitter love
To accept the waking body, saying now
In a changed voice as the man yawns and rises,
    “Bring them down from their ruddy gallows;
Let there be clean linen for the backs of thieves;
Let lovers go fresh and sweet to be undone,
And the heaviest nuns walk in a pure floating
Of dark habits,
                     keeping their difficult balance.”

Marital Companionship

I’ve been busy. How about you? My youngest just turned 6 months and occupies most of my time and all of my heart. And so dear readers, I haven’t had much time to browse the blogoshpere or to write, but I did find this piece by The Thinking Housewife: On Marital Companionship and wanted to share it here. Enjoy!

 

Last Months’ Photo

 

Birth Order and Marriage

I’m reading “the Birth order book”  a section is dedicated to Marriage which I found intriguing. According to it the happiest couple combination is oldest daughter to youngest son (who is not an only son). The most conflictive matches are oldest daughter to oldest son or only daughter to only son.

I’m the oldest daughter in my family and my husband is the oldest son in his, this book was dead on when it came to our  strengths and weaknesses. It was uncanny.

So now I’m curious, which birth order are you? Did you marry the same? the opposite?

The Good Life

My husband graduated from night school this May,  our girls finished another school year, we went to my brother’s wedding, our daughter celebrated her first communion that same weekend, my sister’s wedding is in August, my husband got a great job offer in the South and he’s thinking about taking it, and our ninth wedding Anniversary is tomorrow.  The years have been good and they’ve been full, here’s to many more!

 

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