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Homemaking 2019 Reading List

Here are some books that have been recommended to me and I hope to read this year. What are some of your favorite homemaking books?

         A Mother’s Rule of Life by Holly Pierlot 

This book has been recommended to me twice this month. It looks sweet and has a good rating on goodreads the only complaint from the reviews, “too Catholic” – sounds promising.

The Hidden Art of Homemaking by Edith Schaeffer 

This book has been on my reading list for several years. I keep hoping I’ll find it at a thrift store but haven’t had much luck, it’s also not available at our local library so I decided to just order it this year.

  Large Family Logistics by Kim Brenneman 

I still don’t feel like our family is “large” but people keep telling me I’d like this book.

 

 

Motherhood

Brian Kershisnik Young Astronomer 66 by 84

An acquaintance of mine recently told me that staying at home with her children wasn’t for her anymore and she was looking for work. I replied with an, “oh, really” and wasn’t sure what else to say. I didn’t know if she wanted encouragement to keep up the good fight, to defend my own decisions or simply soothe her  conscience, “yes, motherhood is hard, it’s not for everyone.”  After this conversation, I fortuitously  stumbled across this thoughtful article, A Fallacy of Motherhood by Laura Wood, which is worth a read.  Here’s an excerpt:

” No other form of daily work is burdened with such unrealistic expectations and exalted assumptions as the work of motherhood, which is so sentimentalized in our feminist culture. The woman who does not enjoy the company of young children or finds the home lonely and unstructured compared to the workplace may be left thinking she is not meant to be a mother.”

 

 

Morning Routines

I just realized, it’s the baby’s sleep schedule that makes or breaks the morning routine. I know that seems obvious, but I didn’t realize it until the baby finally slept through the night at 18 months.  Her four molars popped through and – boom! Like magic, she slept ALL night long. And then BOOM!  I had my mornings back. I just didn’t notice how tired I was.

Nice article if you’re too tired for an early morning routine: https://www.thissimplebalance.com/morning-routine-moms-cant-wake-early/

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Laundry

My husband was stressed out from work, from traveling so much. So I asked him, “What can I do?” and he said, “laundry.”

windy on laundry day….

Richard Wilbur
Love Calls Us To The Things of This World
The eyes open to a cry of pulleys,
And spirited from sleep, the astounded soul
Hangs for a moment bodiless and simple
As false dawn.
                     Outside the open window
The morning air is all awash with angels.
    Some are in bed-sheets, some are in blouses,
Some are in smocks: but truly there they are.
Now they are rising together in calm swells
Of halcyon feeling, filling whatever they wear
With the deep joy of their impersonal breathing;
    Now they are flying in place, conveying
The terrible speed of their omnipresence, moving
And staying like white water; and now of a sudden
They swoon down into so rapt a quiet
That nobody seems to be there.
                                             The soul shrinks
    From all that it is about to remember,
From the punctual rape of every blessèd day,
And cries,
               “Oh, let there be nothing on earth but laundry,
Nothing but rosy hands in the rising steam
And clear dances done in the sight of heaven.”
    Yet, as the sun acknowledges
With a warm look the world’s hunks and colors,
The soul descends once more in bitter love
To accept the waking body, saying now
In a changed voice as the man yawns and rises,
    “Bring them down from their ruddy gallows;
Let there be clean linen for the backs of thieves;
Let lovers go fresh and sweet to be undone,
And the heaviest nuns walk in a pure floating
Of dark habits,
                     keeping their difficult balance.”

New Beginnings

They say things happen in three’s and it seems to to be true. Last Saturday We moved (same little city, different home) Sunday we  welcomed our new niece into the Church, and my husband’s dear grandmother died yesterday, she was an amazing woman.  The obituary only briefly touches on her beautiful life, but I hope it gives you an idea of her courageous soul and sharp wit. We miss her already.

Irena Eiva

Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May their souls and all the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. 
Amen.

Women’s Principal Defect

 

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“The principal defect that if a woman can conquer this, if she can conquer this one defect she will excel in all other areas of her spiritual life and that is not controlling her husband. Because the controlling of her husband is the violation of every moral virtue. Every moral virtue. It’s against prudence because your not the head. It’s against Justice because you’re usurping his authority. It’s against fortitude because your basically following the weakness of your emotions and wanting to control him to get what you want. It’s against Temperance because your trying to indulge yourself by making him do what you want him to do so you can feel good about yourself. If a woman can conquer that, there is no other area of her life she can’t conquer. . .Their acceleration into holiness is astounding. ” Fr. Ripperger

He then briefly mentions men’s principal defects: effeminacy and unchastity

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