We have been so busy lately with home projects and the daily work involved in running a home. It seems that once your family size hits 7 the workload somehow increases twofold overnight. Has anyone else felt this? It didn’t feel like the workload was much different from 1 to 2 children, 2 to 3 or even 3 to 4 but somehow 4 to 5 has been an adjustment.
Today as I was trying to keep up with the dishes, the laundry and the meals this quote came to mind, and so I dug it up and share it here in case you too are feeling like Sisyphus take heart!
“I think I can understand that feeling about a housewife’s work being like that of Sisyphus (who was the stone rolling gentleman). But it is surely in reality the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, miners, cars, government etc exist for except that people may be fed, warmed, and safe in their own homes? As Dr. Johnson said, “To be happy at home is the end of all human endeavour”. (1st to be happy to prepare for being happy in our own real home hereafter: 2nd in the meantime to be happy in our houses.) We wage war in order to have peace, we work in order to have leisure, we produce food in order to eat it. So your job is the one for which all others exist…”
― Letters of C. S. Lewis
We celebrated Sibyl’s baptism and Consecration to Mary as well as the Churching of Women yesterday. It was beautiful.
An acquaintance of mine recently told me that staying at home with her children wasn’t for her anymore and she was looking for work. I replied with an, “oh, really” and wasn’t sure what else to say. I didn’t know if she wanted encouragement to keep up the good fight, to defend my own decisions or simply soothe her conscience, “yes, motherhood is hard, it’s not for everyone.” After this conversation, I fortuitously stumbled across this thoughtful article, A Fallacy of Motherhood by Laura Wood, which is worth a read. Here’s an excerpt:
” No other form of daily work is burdened with such unrealistic expectations and exalted assumptions as the work of motherhood, which is so sentimentalized in our feminist culture. The woman who does not enjoy the company of young children or finds the home lonely and unstructured compared to the workplace may be left thinking she is not meant to be a mother.”
We went to Vigil Mass last night
To avoid the storm.
I sat with you in the back.
(It’s easier that way.)
You sat on the kneeler
put your Teddy beside
and looked up
Peerless and innocent, ready
To be loved without question,
And I was caught off guard
By the sheer beauty of it.
You sitting on the kneeler,
Smiling up at me, your Teddy right beside.
They say things happen in three’s and it seems to to be true. Last Saturday We moved (same little city, different home) Sunday we welcomed our new niece into the Church, and my husband’s dear grandmother died yesterday, she was an amazing woman. The obituary only briefly touches on her beautiful life, but I hope it gives you an idea of her courageous soul and sharp wit. We miss her already.
Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May their souls and all the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.
“Part of being a man is being chaste because chastity is hard. It is not easy. A real man is chaste because chastity is one of the hardest virtues to conquer, especially in our day and age. It requires absolute self-denial, a hallmark of masculinity.” – Fr. Ripperger
I’ve been busy. How about you? My youngest just turned 6 months and occupies most of my time and all of my heart. And so dear readers, I haven’t had much time to browse the blogoshpere or to write, but I did find this piece by The Thinking Housewife: On Marital Companionship and wanted to share it here. Enjoy!
Last Months’ Photo
In case you missed this list of hate groups Here it is and here’s the list of hateful, hateful: Rad Trads. God help us, St. Jose Luis, Pray for us!