The world will tell you to hate. Hate your husband for not changing the diaper, for leaving dishes unwashed, for relaxing after work, for opening a beer, for sleeping. Hate, hate, hate.
There are only two choices to hate or to love. Why choose hatred? There is nothing to gain from it. Resentment, anger, loneliness, self loathing, damnation will follow. Rather choose love. Choose to be sanctified through your marriage.
So what if he doesn’t split the chores equally with you, so what if you spend most of the time caring for the children, so what if you are the one getting up at night to care for the baby. You were made for this and his’ burdens though different are just as real as yours- so love!
Is not God’s grace sufficient? If you are a wife, those graces flow through your husband, your marriage. Forsake all others, choose to love, will it.