An excerpt from A. Frances Coomes’ Mother’s Manual. It is written as a reflection, almost an examination of conscience. I found it a helpful to meditate upon:
My home it is highly important that I endeavor to make it an attractive, cheerful place for my husband and my children.
It should not be forgotten that the attitude I manifest towards my husband may greatly influence authority in the home. The children may learn much from my manifest attitude
Children should not be witness to angry words between parents. Sometimes the great virtue asked of me may be silence- a patient and cheerful (not angry) silence.
My husband’s job of providing and managing family affairs may be vexing and worrisome. The home as an attractive place when he returns from work, my readiness to share his concerns, words of encouragement – and of praise at times the tenderness of understanding and wifely affection when he is worried or discourages.
Nagging can never do anything but effect destruction and promote discord. The need of cheerful silence, at times – and of patience. . .
“Two in one flesh” is God’s plan for man and wife. When my husband looks to me for affection – even though I may be tired or distressed – I must know that in a true sense I am part of him, as he of me. Real selflessness and generosity at times is called for. How do I respond? With gentleness? tenderness?
The attractiveness of my person- even inside the home . . . In the morning – before my husband leaves for work . . . an nourishing breakfast according to his preferences? My apperance in serving it