The joys of marriage are real but they are only attained through self-denial and sanctifying grace. As a wife, I deny myself by obeying, serving my husband and bearing his children. I sacrifice a part of my beauty, my body to this calling. He denies himself as well, he provides, protects and leads.He sacrifices a part of his independence and body as he toils and protects. We both die to self but the denial takes different forms.