The Silent Woman

In one his lecture’s  Fr. Ripperger’s asserts that one of the most beautiful things in this world is a silent woman. This statement struck me as true.

I asked my DH if he thought it was true and he agreed. He then  told that a year ago at Mass  I left the pew and went to the side to soothe our baby, he didn’t realize this and when he saw me, he thought to himself, who is that devastatingly beautiful woman? (He has never called me that before ) He realized oh, that’s my wife. My silence changed my disposition so much that my husband didn’t even recognize me.

Being an introvert, a natural loner, a very quiet person in social situations when my husband comes home, I feel like finally the person who understands me is here and I can  talk!  Probably way more than he’d like. But this revelation definitely makes me want to shut up more. At least give him a little more room to relax. 

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7 comments

  1. wow. i’m going to ponder this for a long time.

    i think a silent woman is also mysterious, intriguingly mysterious.

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    “Being an introvert, a natural loner, a very quiet person in social situations when my husband comes home, I feel like finally the person who understands me is here and I can talk!”

    i totally get that!

  2. This is interesting as my husband seems endlessly curious about what I am thinking precisely because I don’t talk very much at all. He likes to hear me talk, perhaps because he knows I am not going to prattle on endlessly. My kids laugh at me because I can be on the phone for 30 minutes and all they really hear me say is “mmm hmm”, or “yeah, I get that”, unless the person says something I vehemently disagree with it.

    Of course, I’m not “silent” in the sense of never saying anything at all. There’s no such thing as a silent blogger. I just don’t express myself verbally nearly as well as I do in writing. In fact, when I decided to shuttle my blog a while back, he suggested that I find something more to my liking to write about because when I’ve written, my wheels are turning, and I have more to talk about, Hence, the book blog was born. I wonder if our dynamic isn’t a common one between introverts (which I am) and extroverts (which he is).

    Ultimately, that gentle and quiet spirit the Scripture speaks of should produce a woman who ponders things in her heart more than she speaks. I am reminded also of Proverbs 17:28 which says:

    Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.

    1. I’m sure it is very different for extroverted/introverted couples. That dynamic is hard for me to image since we are both so introverted. I also am more articulate in writing than I am in speech. I hop around from subject to subject and my husband is always asking me to clarify. I find myself saying, “It makes sense in my head!”

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