Women’s Principal Defect


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“The principal defect that if a woman can conquer this, if she can conquer this one defect she will excel in all other areas of her spiritual life and that is not controlling her husband. Because the controlling of her husband is the violation of every moral virtue. Every moral virtue. It’s against prudence because your not the head. It’s against Justice because you’re usurping his authority. It’s against fortitude because your basically following the weakness of your emotions and wanting to control him to get what you want. It’s against Temperance because your trying to indulge yourself by making him do what you want him to do so you can feel good about yourself. If a woman can conquer that, there is no other area of her life she can’t conquer. . .Their acceleration into holiness is astounding. ” Fr. Ripperger

He then briefly mentions men’s principal defects: effeminacy and unchastity


You Will Hate Your Husband . . .

You Will Hate Your Husband After Your Kid Is Born 

The world will tell you to hate. Hate your husband for not changing the diaper, for leaving dishes unwashed, for relaxing after work, for opening a beer, for sleeping.  Hate, hate, hate.

There are only two choices to hate or to love. Why choose hatred? There is nothing to gain from it. Resentment, anger, loneliness, self loathing, damnation will follow. Rather choose love. Choose to be sanctified through your marriage.

So what if he doesn’t split the chores equally with you, so what if you spend most of the time caring for the children, so what if you are the one getting up at night to care for the baby.  You were made for this and his’ burdens though different are just as real as yours- so love!

Is not God’s grace sufficient? If you are a wife, those graces flow through your husband, your marriage. Forsake all others, choose to love, will it.

Disciplining Children

The blog Like Mother Like Daughter has a lot of good advice on discipline. I’d encourage you to check it out. Although her posts are a bit long winded for my taste, her advice is practical and her tone encouraging. She’s right, There are so many bad books out there on parenting these days we need to read the subtext in classic literature in order to relearn what has been lost. (Which is one of the reasons I love reading The little house books with my girls.) A lovely blog all in all.